The Language Of Appreciation

The Language Of Appreciation

How to be more fluent

Do you feel appreciated at work?

And, on the other side of the same coin… do you think you do a good job at making your colleagues feel valued?

A poll from Glass Door reveals that appreciation is the number 1 reason why people leave…

And yet, a new survey by OnePoll reveals that 63% of people feel unappreciated by their employer on a daily basis.  Isn’t that just staggering?

If ‘The Great Resignation’ taught us anything, it’s that employees want to feel more valued at work, but how can you help your colleagues feel more valued?

It’s a strange beast ‘appreciation’, we feel it for others and we need it for ourselves… so, where is the problem?

It may be that how you like to receive appreciation is different to how others like to show it… almost like you’re speaking different languages.

In this short video Mark shares 4 languages of appreciation and how you can become more fluent in each.   You’ll learn:

  • Why appreciation is so important, especially today
  • How you like to be appreciated 
  • What you can do to ensure that the people around you feel appreciated

We’d love to learn what you found most useful, please share your comments below.

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  1. Jessica-Reply
    5th March 2021 at 1:38 am

    Insightful! It sounds a bit like the concept of “Love Languages”. There’s a book, “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” by Gary Chapman

    • Mark-Reply
      5th March 2021 at 8:50 am

      Spot on Jessica. It’s the same principle developed by Gary Chapman and Paul White but mapped to a work environment. The languages of love map to the languages of appreciation.

  2. Ben-Reply
    5th March 2021 at 1:41 am

    Great stuff again Mark. From working years in recruitment I’m not surprised feeling underappreciated is the 1# reason for people leaving companies

  3. Ann-Reply
    5th March 2021 at 1:44 am

    Thanks for making this Mark. Real eye opener for me. Upon reflection feeling appreciated makes a huge difference to my motivation and energy levels at work. Keep up the great work with these videos

  4. Mark Mulligan-Reply
    5th March 2021 at 8:47 am

    I’d really appreciate hearing from you…

    What’s your language of Appreciate ?

    What did you find most useful about this video?

    What action are you going to take?

  5. Jessica-Reply
    5th March 2021 at 8:53 am

    That’s great Mark! We need these kind of tools and concepts in the work place too. We are all unique and so experience things in our own individual ways. Really great work! Well done to you and your team.

  6. Liosa O'Sullivan-Reply
    5th March 2021 at 9:35 am

    Thanks Mark; certainly food for thought and yes I think that feeling of lack of appreciation, not only causes people to leave jobs but it also causes huge strain in the workplace. I hear again and again from friends that they don’t mind the extra hours but they are tired of nobody noticing the extra work they take on. Feeling appreciated may also be the reason people stay on in jobs; I have two friends, both working for considerably less, in terms of salary, than they could get elsewhere but they stay in their current jobs (and they love those jobs) because they feel appreciated. I think the most important message I have taken from today is be really specific in your appreciation and it will then be much more valuable.

    • Mark-Reply
      8th March 2021 at 6:26 pm

      Thanks Liosa, what a great example from your 2 friend to importance of appreciation.

  7. Sue Riley-Reply
    5th March 2021 at 9:45 am

    Another great video! I can see I need to refine my language of appreciation to be more specific.

    • Mark-Reply
      8th March 2021 at 6:24 pm

      Indeed Sue, the more specific you can be the more they’ll fell that you really value them. Thanks so much.

    • Mark-Reply
      9th March 2021 at 7:41 am

      Thanks so much Sue!

  8. Hannah O'Neill-Reply
    5th March 2021 at 3:06 pm

    Super brilliant and insightful! I manage two wonderful ladies, and one loves words of appreciation, whereas the other really values quality time. This has been fab at helping me think how I can adapt to ensure they’re both feeling like the very valued, wonderful and amazing colleagues they are. Thanks Mark and thriving!

    • Mark-Reply
      8th March 2021 at 6:23 pm

      Great news Hannah! Sounds like you have an amazing team who you really value.

  9. Jim Anderson-Reply
    8th March 2021 at 10:22 am

    Hi Mark, wise words as always, and also clear explanations to help flow into the work place.

    What’s my language, not sure 🙂 But can already see preferences in colleagues

    Many thanks – since we met at Barclaycard, “thriving” is one of my most used words inside and outside of work for myself and to others.

    • Mark-Reply
      8th March 2021 at 6:22 pm

      Thanks Jim! I’m so glad ‘thriving’ have become one of your most used words.

  10. Laura Willis-Reply
    10th March 2021 at 2:01 am

    Love it Mark. Really invaluable at the moment. Keep it up!

  11. Dan McGonigle-Reply
    10th March 2021 at 2:02 am

    Very valuable insights, especially in the current climate. Great job Mark Mulligan

  12. Evan Belford-Reply
    10th March 2021 at 2:03 am

    Insightful. Thanks Mark!

  13. Catherine De La Poer-Reply
    10th March 2021 at 2:04 am

    Mark Mulligan agree – BIG yes to appreciation. When we value, appreciate we honour our colleagues. The ritual of appreciation builds trust. It releases happy chemicals in the brain, it releases the ❤️ hormone Oxytocin. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

  14. Kelly Madeley-Reply
    7th April 2022 at 1:05 pm

    Insightful as always Mark. Thanks for sharing and has given me food for thought as a leader.

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