Reach Out 2 Help

Reach Out 2 Help

How to get over the awkwardness of helping someone else

Whenever we run thriving workshops one question comes up more than any other:
How do I even begin to have a conversation with somebody 
when I am concerned about their wellbeing?
To explore this question Mark invited his ex business partner, mentor and good friend Daryll Scott to thriving. Daryll is an author, keynote speaker, consultant and the best coach we know.
In this video you’ll learn how you can make small changes to how you
  • think
  • feel and…
  • behave

…so that you can be comfortable and confident reaching out to help someone you’re concerned about.

This video will help you to help others.  There’s something that happens when you reach out to help someone that might also help you.

We’d love to learn what you found most useful, please share your comments below.

We look forward to seeing you next month and in the meantime.. 

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  1. Leon Taylor-Reply
    1st October 2020 at 1:30 pm

    Two of my favorite people discussing such an important and relevant topic.
    We all need a little help from those around us. Kindness is the currency. Great tips on how to look out for others.
    Thanks Daryll and Mark.

  2. Cathy McGennis-Reply
    1st October 2020 at 1:50 pm

    Thank you Mark & Daryll, that was a useful, practical session. It is a shame that we don’t reach out, as often as we should, because of these fear factors.
    I particularly like the idea of Mental Fitness, its such an easy and applicable concept to understand, and help liberate that fear. I can put that into action today.

  3. Lucy Hockey-Reply
    1st October 2020 at 5:29 pm

    Thank you Mark & Daryll. All the points were so well put forward. I think there are a lot of people struggling at the moment and it’s so important to reach out if you think they need help, but we don’t always do it. I found the practical points around just listening and pausing to give people space to talk really useful.

  4. Caroline Flin-Reply
    1st October 2020 at 7:41 pm

    Such an important topic – now more than ever It seems – thank you Mark and Daryll. It all resonated and got me thinking what could be possible if we really listened, got curious and asked others what they need in more of our conversations and especially when reaching out.

  5. Ben-Reply
    2nd October 2020 at 1:39 am

    Really important discussion on such a sensitive area!
    I especially like the mindset tip of approaching the person in need with the sole goal of listening, rather than fixing.
    And also understanding that while I’m unlikely to fix the problem, I’m also unlikely to make it any worse.
    Both definitely take the pressure off and make it easier to reach out.
    Thanks guys!

  6. Ann-Reply
    2nd October 2020 at 1:49 am

    Great video Mark! I liked the idea of using the more helpful term of “mental fitness” in place “mental health” reducing stigma and promoting ongoing mental training as a part of everyday life

  7. Rebecca Stevens-Reply
    3rd October 2020 at 12:05 pm

    Really helpful, insightful and practical Mark and Daryll. I loved the concept of mental fitness and how we can all at times lose some of our fitness and need to get it back again. Having a compassionate and curious mindset is also a great tip for how to approach conversations with those we are worried about, and to genuinely listen without feeling or needing to fix it!

  8. Sarah-Reply
    5th October 2020 at 11:29 am

    Thank you guys this is gold. It’s all useful. Three (and a bit…) things that were helpful takeaways:

    1) It’s not my responsibility.. and I would like to help..
    1a) Speak with the intention to empower them – ask them what would help them and what they could do..? Don’t own the solution for them.

    2) I can make small changes around how I feel for the conversation – develop a compassionate curiosity.

    3) It’s difficult to be fearful or uncomfortable if I am genuinely being curious about the other person. How might I change how I behave?

    Great video and timely. Thank you.

  9. Hash-Reply
    8th October 2020 at 2:39 pm

    Great to see Daryll in action again. Loved the honesty about the person as a well demonstrated example of the difference between Sympathy and Empathy.
    I really liked the notion of curiosity, i find I often take on responsibility, so going to try just being curious instead, it enables creativity and is a way of showing you care/ are interested.

  10. Julie Martin-Reply
    10th October 2020 at 11:58 pm

    Once again wonderful and insightful! So important to find the distinction between really being open to help others (really listen to their needs) as opposed to forcing our opinions on what WE think they need. It’s often not the same thing at all. Being there for someone else is often much simpler than we imagine. We need to drop our own agenda first. Keep up the good work Mark!

  11. Kylie Roberts-Reply
    2nd November 2020 at 7:38 am

    Two of my favourite friends discussing a topic very dear to my heart. It’s always a better option to check in with someone than to leave it because you are afraid of what they might say. Reach out everyone and the world will be a more compassionate and fun place to be. Love you both and thank you. X

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